Importance of Abstinence Before Marriage
In this day and age, most young people wonder why they should wait to have sex at the right time. Society has acquired a keener focus and sharper delivery of sexual content. All around us, there are subtle suggestions, hints, guides, encouragements, and motivations for people to engage in sexual intercourse. From ads placed on TV, no matter the hour, to the ease of access to pornographic material, it is a mystery how someone can go without sex for even a short while. But abstinence comes with so many benefits. Your decision to wait until you are in the confines of s marriage to have sex may prove tough to stick to, but the rewards are well worth it. In the meantime, let us take a look at some of the reasons why you need to avoid sex until then.
Sex tends to hide problems. Once you start engaging in sexual activity, you see no need to address any other issues you might have in your relationship. Sex makes you think you are in love, when, without it, you may not even last long together. Choosing not to engage in it, therefore, keeps you both level headed enough to explore all sections of the relationship, and determine if you are right for each other.
Abstaining from sex allows you to marry someone for the right reasons. If someone wanted to get married so that they can keep having sex, the foundation of that union would be fake. But if there is no marriage until they get married, they will be forced to look at the relationship closely, and only move forth when they are sure they love each other despite the sex. If someone’s interest was only sex, they would not be willing to wait that long to get married just so they can have what they can easily get elsewhere before then.
Abstaining from sex also helps you avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Having a baby when you are not ready or in a marriage always introduces more problems in your lives than you needed. The old strategy of getting pregnant before marriage to force one no longer applies. People are choosing to live their lives separately and raise the child together. In such arrangements, there is always tension and feelings of unfairness. Abstaining, therefore, help you reduce the stress in your life and the harm that ultimately, the children have to endure.
You also should avoid doing it simply because everyone else is doing it. There are so many people who have lowered their standards to the point of engaging in sexual intercourse the first time they meet. Through infatuation, most of them will even make it to the altar. But shortly afterward, they realize they were not meant to be. Thus the high number of divorces we see every day. You need to have your principles and stick to them no matter your environment. Your happiness and future peace of mind depend on your stand.
Abstaining also makes you appreciate this unique and fulfilling gift even more. If you could easily have it, you should not place such a high premium on it. But if, for example, you start dating someone and decide to wait until you get married, both of you will appreciate it even more. The trials and tribulations that go with waiting for that long to reach that level will make you appreciate not only the sex but also the relationship even more. You will have gotten the chance to know each other well, and so no hiccups down the line will have you rushing to get divorced.